BrainVomit - Purging thoughts

I haven't written in such a long time. I have been busy, with both work and Dan, there's one excuse, another is I just haven't felt like moaning like a preteen fucking emokid who has broken a nail and thinks that means the world is ending. But now I'm here, because I'm full to bursting point and have nowhere else to go. If I don't let it out now by sitting and writing then it is sure to force its way out, in a more destructive manner. I had thoughts of being creative but it's just not coming to me tonight. I'm in too much of a low, I need to be in a moderate high to write anything of creative substance.

So this is the new year, the second month of it too. What has it brought me so far? Well, I now have the diagnosis of Bipolar that I have suspected and indeed been suffering for the last 7+years. Finally a gp listened enough to hear the words mood swings rather than just low. I'm rocketing from sky high then plummeting to rock bottom lows, several times a day. As you can probably imagine this leaves me more than a little distressed and confused. Admittedly, it hasn't always been this bad, for several years the highs and lows were much longer and spaced apart, heck most of last summer was just one massive high before I got unstable again.

I have found people to talk to about it, there's a discussion forum for bipolar's that I've joined, though it has few active members those I have spoken to have helped a bit.

I guess I'm back on the up again right now, but I'm still questioning everything. Today I wonder if my friends even like me at all, I don't see them any more because I'm keeping myself busy with work and can't face going out to club or anything, and very few make an effort to talk to me now. I don't blame them, I honestly hate myself and can't see any reason anyone else would have to like me. Besides they all have plenty of other friends to have a good time with, without having the crazy fucking nutjob bringing the mood down. Ah, there's the downer again. I new the up was only brief, probably because I took a 10min break from writing to talk to my cousin on msn. I don't like starting conversations any more on there, I have nothing to say when I feel down, and when I'm up I make little to no sense at all. I can sit there and go through the motions, use those little smiley faces to cover up the fact that I'm crying behind this stupid screen and it makes no difference. I'm so distant from the conversation sometimes it might as well be computing automated responses. I really wouldn't be surprised if all contact with the outside world starts falling away, it's probably for the best anyway. There's no point me bringing anyone else down with me because nobody can help me, I'm a fucking lost cause and even the professionals know that much. Counselling evaluation resulted in them saying they'll have to call me about the next appointment because they need to go into a meeting with their superiors to discuss the best course of action for me. I'm that screwed up they can't even talk to me about it. Didn't help that I went up and down at least twice when I was in the 45 minute session and they seemed to have no real idea of how bipolar works. But back to the point, less contact means less having to lie through idle words about how I feel and less chance of bringing anyone down. I know people may say they care but at the end of the day I'd rather they were off having a good time than giving a shit about a worthless piece of crap like myself.

All this is running through my head, all the time, along with a thousand other thoughts all at 100mph. The only way I can deal with it is to try and surpress it all with logic, stupid little games like Spider Solitaire, absorbing into the pure logical rules because it makes a lot more sense than my head. Memories, words, thoughts, feelings, it's all a massive blur that I can't cope with. Work is just a series of tasks I can absorb into behind a mask I put on with that sickening fake smile that makes me want to tear my own face off. A face that half the time I don't even recognise. It's like having an out of body experience but being in your body, my reflection does not look like me, everything feels out of place, my voice sounds completely alien (and entirely annoying) and I hate every inch of it all head to toe. How or why anyone would want to be near this piteous wreck really is beyond me.

I'm so freaking low right now I'm probably just going to curl up and cry, then eat something in the hopes it will take my mind off it. It never does, it never comforts me, it only makes me feel sick with myself for the growing obesity but I can't help it, it's a compulsion. I hope I bounce back in the next hour or so. There's things I need to do before tomorrow.


Jenivere Out.

BrainVomit - Ups, Downs, Ups, and The Trouble with Dependency

The last couple of weeks have been a bit of a shambolic mess. I had a few days off after some pretty non-stop intense days of work while suffering from what it turns out is a chest infection. Hooray! So I went to the doc, was given antibiotics and a new inhaler - I'm asthmatic but as it doesn't normally affect me much I don't tend to keep one. The concoction of pills is having a mixed result, with the slight and entirely new side effect of the salbutamol inhaler being shaky hands (to the point where writing is difficult) and hot flushes. Top this off with a little dizziness and a slight high from the mixture of everything that shouldn't react badly with itself but might anyway just to annoy me. And still, I feel like crap.

But anyway, on to somthing a tad more positive. On my 3-days-off-in-a-row, which was much needed I might add, I was able to spend some quality time with Dan. We both had the Monday off so I headed to his house middayish. We spent some time in his room where I admired his 3 (yes, 3!!!) mini xmas trees - such a difference to my ex who was nothing but a grinch over the past few years, making me choose and buy my own present and not wanting any surprises himself either he had to be forced into allowing any meagre decorations...but enough about him because Dan's festive spirit is really uplifting to be around, he has restored my faith in the seasonal cheer and indeed in some parts of humanity also. Hats off to him there.

So back to the point, we had some time inside, and spent a lot of quality time together, ahem, and by the evening we were making plans to go out for the night. We ended up going to not the usual pub but to a different one much closer to the house - it was damn cold so I'm glad we didn't have so far to go! We met a few friends there and spent a really good couple of hours just talking and laughing over a pint or 2 with people who are simply a joy to spend time with. I've missed going out a lot since starting work but I'm glad that when we do now it's always worth it, especially when we can completely avoid certain other folk who seem to lower the tone in more ways than one.

So that was a good day. When I left on Tuesday morning I was still on a high, and went home to work on some music. I ended up writing some new material and recording a couple of pieces via PSEye and did the same again during Wednesday while also getting neccessary washing etc done. I was on a massive high, but with the downside that being on such a creative high made me completely neglect calling about counselling, again. I should have by now but I keep making the excuses, to be honest I think I'm just scared about bringing everything out into the open incase I break down like I did before when I was young. One can only hope that time has made one stronger.

The dizzying highs are always followed by the lows, and though with the pills the lows are less severe I still feel them. It's when I'm low that the usual normal if a little bizarre vivid dreams that the pills bring about turn into inescapable nightmares. Last night was another nightmare that burned itself into my memory, because it just repeated like it was on a loop all night, until finally I was able to wake up and end the horror. The memories I have from my nightmares now scar almost as deep as true memories, because in all honesty when I get hurt I really feel the pain, I feel everything in these dreams at the moment as lucid as if I was awake and it was all happening in the here and now, even the most surreal parts too.

I'm now also wondering if I am becoming dependant on these pills. Not because I crave them, or feel anxious if I'm late with a dose, or through withdrawal symptoms, nothing like that. I just simply realised that tonight I haven't had them yet and normally I could be fast asleep by now, but I don't feel like I can sleep. So I took it late about 10minutes ago and am waiting for sleep's choking embrace to drag me into another nightmare, when I awake I will be just as tired and in no way ready for a day of work, but at least it's only a 6hour sunday shift...it can't be that bad, right?

BrainVomit - Neverending Nightmares...

Last night I had more nightmares, and try as I might I couldn't wake up. One part etched firmly in my tired and aching brain is where I had a cut on my lower leg, going all the way around. It looked like barely a scratch but then suddenly I couldn't walk and the whole thing was practically cut off and bleeding everywhere. I actually felt the pain and desperately in my sleep tried to push it back together and keep walking. That image and that fear hasn't left me all day. The weirder thing is that somewhere in the dream I was the one cutting my own flesh. Deeply disturbing when these dreams are so vivid, so real...oh well...

Most of work was spent handing out vouchers at the door, sounds simple and it is but in other ways it's completely soul destroying. Saying the same thing over and over makes you feel like a broken record player and for every person who thanks you and smiles there are three more who knock you down with ignorance, the disapproving headshake or the sad look that says "I know your smile is fake, and so is mine, we both know it but rather than making your job easier I'm going to walk as far away from you as possible and try to make it look natural". That being said I do still like my job when it's just the usual, and will plough through as much of tomorrow's 10hour shift of taking in stock from the delivery as best as I can while attempting to ignore the virus that is making me feel like there's someone constantly stood on my chest laughing in my face with halitosis.

Of course, I'd like to remain positive, but the only thing that got me through the hours standing in the cold repeating myself to people who either didn't care or insisted on getting far too close to popping my personal bubble, was the llama song playing on repeat in my head... "here's a llama there's a llama there's another little llama fuzzy llama funny llama, llama llama duck...."

Been listening randomly to Dream Theater more recently. Very impressed by the song Panic Attack which is scarily and yet brilliantly accurate. The rest of the week should go quickly, with Dan here friday on my day off then a weekend of work. Next week I have the first three days off but then I'm working solid until xmas eve. Ho hum. All my shopping will have to be done in that one day, but at least all the plans for the day are sorted. Start out with dan's family, go to my mum's for a while, then back to poole to see my dad in the evening. Covering all bases in one short day, I'm hoping to see all my friends in the pub xmas eve, huzzah! The only one's I won't see then I shall hopefully be seeing them all in January, which is most excellent because I miss them loads and love them dearly. This time I will make up for my previous...instabilities...in our last meetings. I no longer have to worry about a member of the group who was, in short and as polite as I can manage, a twat, and will be able to relax a lot more away from crowds of people. Which brings me neatly back to the beginning of this paragraph where I would like to advise anyone who hasn't heard the song to listen to it, because it holds a great insight into the feelings one goes through in a panic attack.

I'm off to go get some custard, fatty wants comfort food...I kid you not, I have put on weight unfortunately. Downside - favourite jeans now have muffintop syndrome. Upside - boobs got a tiny bit bigger. Downside - sodding bras don't fit right anymore and I seem to be having trouble with TMIS - too much information syndrome.
Jenivere Out.

BrainVomit - Red Bus Syndrome, and Honesty at its most Brutal...

12/11/09

So another period of time has passed where I once again have failed to keep up. It's not surprising really, one has to be in the mood to write, and well I've never been great at sticking to things anyway. The fact my blog has continued thus far is a small miracle of its own. Anyway, on to the tedious mental excrement of the week...

The last time I wrote was before I went to the doctor. Well, I went. I talked, felt only half listened to, and was given anti-depressants and a phone number to book my own counselling. I've since lost the number but have been taking the pills. The main side effect is drowsiness. I felt the worst of it in the first few days, where after taking one at night as directed I slept for 11hours and woke up feeling tired, and spent a further 4-5hours drifting in and out of sleep. Not good. Thankfully I seem to be evening out a little on this but still feel (and apparently look) exhausted a lot of the time.

That night was planned as a gaming night for 3 of us, but Chrispy couldn't make it so it was just me and Dan again. Nevermind, we had a few fun games and I fell asleep early because the pills had made me so tired I couldn't keep my eyes open.

Since then, Dan's had some time off work for a week so we've been spending most of that together, mostly here. I had an interview last Friday and got a call Monday morning when I was with Dan to say I got the job. Huzzah! I now have a job, about an hour and a half travel away from home, 20hours a week, minimum wage...well, it's a start. To celebrate, we went to town and Dan bought me lunch out in a lovely pub/restaurant. Good meals and in great portions, and the prices were pretty awesome too. £6.95 for 2 meals (we chose lasagne), £1 for tea or coffee, and buy one get one free on puddings at £3.95 each. Apple crumble and custard, absolutely brilliantly tasty, a real treat. We spent a bit of time in town and headed back to Blandford for the evening.

We planned to go to the pub for further celebration, and ended up there with just us 2 and Zack. It was nice when we arrived early, nobody was there and we could sit in the corner and chat, catching up and talking about the usual crap we do down pub. Then, an hour later, the regulars arrived. The reason most of our friends don't often go down there any more... Some of them are ok, when they're not with others, but some of the girls, and yes it's ALL women here surprise surprise, have been known to almost constantly bitch about people who aren't there behind their backs. I just don't take kindly to that. You have a problem with someone take it to their face. Surely you can think of something better to talk about?! Hmm, maybe not then....

8/12/09

Alright so I'm picking up this half finished blog nearly a month later. It has been busy, since securing my new job I've been spending most days working, and of those days I spend 3 hours on buses travelling just to get there and back. The jobcentre gave me a grant to cover the first month ticket though so it's not too bad for now, and only £60 per month after that for unlimited buses in Poole/Bournemouth, fabulous, and I might even consider paying another £40 to cover going to Blandford or other places too, not sure about that yet as it may be cheaper to just pay when I'm actually going there which at the moment doesn't look like it'll be too often. I'm working all weekends in December. Good, because I'm doing well over my contracted hours and will therefore earn more monies, but bad because I won't be able to go out as much and might miss out on seeing Dan a lot as our shift schedules won't always match.

It could be a blessing in disguise though given the escalating bitchiness at the pub. Yes, more, and unprovoked as always. See, the other night we went out for the first time in a while, we arranged to meet a good few friends up pub for a couple of drinks and a lot of laughs. It was great for a few hours, we were all talking, we played a couple games of pool and everyone was just relaxed and enjoying themselves. Then we got word that they were on their way, those known now as the trio, who when on their own can sometimes be quite likeable but when together only seem to cause aggro, piss people off, and talk about others behind their backs. This is not the sort of person that I like. They came in with their trophy boyfriends, and sat on a seat near to us as there wasn't room for them all to join at the corner table. Before they came everyone expressed dislike, and said how they wish they didn't go there any more, but nobody actually ever says anything to them. If we all stood up and said we're fed up of their shit they'd have no choice but to fuck right off or stay there and be shunned. As it was most of us ignored them, despite the fact I am sure they count us all among their friends. It's not mutual, because once upon a time with no provocation they suddenly had a problem with me. I've never had anything against them, until the day they turned on me. They don't even know me, and have no reason to dislike me that I know of mainly because we've barely spoken. Since then further actions have affirmed my stance against them but like the good little doormat I am I just sit back and take it with a smile just to keep the peace.

I amaze myself for being so spineless to sit back when one of them in particular goes out of her way to be a complete and utter bitch. Am I exaggerating? Maybe, but judge for yourself. Dan and I were playing a long doubles game of pool against another couple, and for some reason "she" saw fit to interfere. It was a really tense and competitive but good humoured game, but she butted in and took a shot for them when not invited to do so and later decided to get up and pick up on of their balls dropping it in the pocket and moving several others when she did so. I should have relocated my cue somewhere uncomfortable but instead I grumbled and replaced the balls that I could for Dan to take his shot. Later in the night Dan and I were stood under the doorway to keep out of the pouring rain while we waited for the taxi he had called to take us home. They came to leave and "she", rather than asking, physically pushed him out of the way and into the rain. The one who had left a minute ahead of her had asked and he had stepped aside, but manners obviously mean nothing to the worst of the gang. I don't know what grudge she bears against Dan but she makes sure enough to show it when she can. I'm sick of it, so next time she or any of them do or say anything I'm biting back, in the full knowledge that pretty much everyone else will agree and nobody will back their corner.

Other things have been going equally dismally for me at the moment. I went back to the doctor after coming to the end of my first prescription for antidepressants and saw a different guy this time but spoke of the nightmares I've been having since a couple of weeks of starting treatment. He advised perservering with them, and prescribed double the dose. I've had 4 days of these and the nightmares are worse. Sometimes they aren't even nightmares just extremely vivid dreams, the kind where you can feel the pain of whatever happens in it. Some of the nightmares are fantasy, some are repetitions of reality, flashbacks forcing me to relive moments of my life I'd rather forget, some of them are simply twisted apparitions born of my own subconscious hopes and fears. When I was on the lower dose I would come to the point of waking sometimes as frequent as every 10minutes for a few hours, slipping in and out of terrifying dreams, but these few days on the higher dose seem to be enforcing a deeper sleep, the nightmares cycle on and yet I can't wake up and escape them. I wake up feeling like I've barely slept much at all and with the images of the night burned into my brain as real as if they'd happened mere hours ago in real life. Sometimes when waking it is hard to distinguish that it was a dream for those first few dozy minutes. And this is supposed to help? Yes, I have had less panic attacks, yes I am going to sleep easier, yes I have had *some* small improvement in mood, but I'm still getting some of the mood swings and am becoming more than a little paranoid about sleeping. I'll keep going for now, and eventually pluck up the stomach to call the number I was given to arrange counselling. The scars of the past are etched deep in my heart, sins that can never be forgiven remain unforgotten poisoning my mind, colouring my life black with unspoken pain.

~~~~~~~ Honesty, Brutal and Cold.~~~~~~~

Well now is the time to drop the candour from my words and give up on hiding the things that trouble me. I will not reveal my past but I will describe the present bluntly, how it is. You see, not everything is as it seems. Though I am happy with my relationship with Dan there are things around it that makeit particularly stressful. Reader, if you know us well please use discretion about reading on for what I speak is not truly mine to divulge but something I wish I could change.

Every time I stay at his house, it becomes ever more clear. He has spoken to me before of the problems certain people have with alcohol and it has now got to the stage where I can tell. When your family and those close to you can tell you have been drinking when you try to hide it from them you should not be surprised, but when a relative stranger notices it's a more serious problem. But then people under the spell of the addictive liquors never seem to realise the harm it does to those around them, even if it is as simple as serious concern for their own health and wellbeing, once before damaged by drink to the very brink of termination it's strange to us outside that all warnings would remain unheeded despite having seen first hand the true consequences in others. Every time I go there I can't relax, even when sober there is always somewhere a reason to disrupt, further put to detriment by Dan's own ways. I'm sure it's not intentional but he does have a way of making problems where there are none, or getting people involved when it is not needed which can cause further friction between them. It is difficult, and I am far happier here at home where I know my father does not feel the need to intrude and is also very pleasant to spend time with without feeling awkward.

There are a lot of times where I've wished for life to become like a fairytale, to be taken away by some handsome knight who would banish all my troubles for that happily ever after we used to hear about at bedtime. Unfortunately, that is not the case. Every knight I have come across has either been a dragon in disguise or simply had tarnished armour or a kingdom falling to ruin around them. There's no such thing as fairy godmothers and wishes turn to ashes before our eyes every day. The best I can dream of somehow is a tragedy, I actually secretly wish nothing more than a beautiful death and a lover to mourn my passing. But then, in dying, I wouldn't know - so what's the point?

There's no such thing as heroes, they're all too busy battling their own demons. There are no knights in shining armour, only liars, cheats and thieves waiting to sweep you off your feet and tear out your heart for sport. Maybe a part of me still believes in love, beautiful head over heels romance overcoming any obstacles in its way....but what's the point believing if I can't even say it to his face? I am a coward wishing for the easy way because I'm too tired to fight the currents any more. Ultimately I shall drown never seeing the shore, abandoning the life raft because I'm too scared of picking up the oar to row. I will sink knowing I only ever relied on myself, that my own fears became the lead in my limbs, my own cowardice drove me to leave dry land too afraid to face the beasts in the woods.

I shouldn't be left alone with my thoughts like this. My mind is a prison, I am trapped in the cage shaped around me by the past, people and places that tore me down until I gave up fighting back. And now I see my cousin, starting to falter under depression, and there is little I can do to help him because he is a prisoner as much as I. I can but hope he is stronger than I am and have been, that he can push back his demons.

"I've seen angels fall from blinding heihts, but you yourself are nothing so divine, just next in line. Arm yourself because no one else here will save you."

I need to stop writing now, I fear I am actually losing my mind...

Until next time,
Jenivere out.

BrainVomit - Short Trips, Halloween, and Losing More Control

This'll be a long one I think so please bare with me. The last few days have been fairly busy, and the result is a colossal headache right now. Oh dear.

~~~~~~~ Thursday 29th - To Dover ~~~~~~~

We left fairly early in the morning for the drive to Dover. My half sister, Kaitlin, was in the back with a DVD player to keep her entertained with a stack of DVDs and was content to keep quiet and watch. I talked to dad for about the first half hour then it was mostly quiet driving down the motorways toward London. We stopped at the traditional and popular Fleet services for a quick leg stretch and toilet break then headed onward to Dover with a few snacks on board for lunch.

The journey in total was about 3 and a half hours, when we arrived I was grateful for the chance to sit on a comfy sofa and relax. The only one home when we arrived was my Nana, so we talked to her for a while and I caught up with her as I haven't seen her in the past 4 years. I feel very guilty for not seeing her in all this time, but it was nigh on impossible what with my ex boyfriend and lack of monies to get there on my own.

As I was talking to her it was becoming more clear how she is suffering dementia and very bad short term memory. Through the day she repeated herself on one thing about 6 times with no recollection of having said it before. I worry for her, I know she has had a couple of strokes a few years back and has a lot of difficulty in getting around, pretty much housebound now and relying on my aunts to care for her.

Still, we relaxed through the afternoon until my aunts and older cousin arrived home, and all had a nice meal together in the evening followed by an equally nice pudding. The rest of the evening was spent talking and laughing, catching up on what we'd all missed until dad went upstairs to put Kaitlin to bed. We waited a while for him to come down and decided to set up a table to play cards. Several games of "shithead" later and we realised he'd probably gone to sleep upstairs too as he was so tired from the drive. A few more hours passed with a good many laughs and endless rounds of cards, which I'm proud to say I didn't lose a single hand of until the very last round we played before bed at midnight.

I had a sofa and sleeping bag for the night, so ambled off to play about on the laptop until I could actually sleep. Unfortunately it took until about 1am before I could close my eyes, and I was awake at 4:30am needing to get up. When I got back to bed I slept in half hour intervals, waking up to shift around. The room was chilly, but the sleeping bag was a bit thick and thermal for indoor use above freezing temperatures, so I just couldn't seem to get it right. By the time I got up at 8am the next morning it felt like I'd hardly slept at all. Through the entire day I'd bounced a couple of times between the up moods and the down moods, though thankfully mostly stayed on the up so found it easier to hide the failing sanity there.

~~~~~~~Friday 30th October - Trip Cut Short~~~~~~~

The next day dad and Kaitlin made the second of her plaster of paris models from the kit she had brought with her. They made one the day before which she had now already painted. I had breakfast and afterwards when the model was dry I sat with Kaitin while she painted it. It was a nice little bonding experience, and good to see how well she was mixing the colours and how carefully she was painting the detail. Obviously at 5 years old she's not making masterpieces but she's trying really hard and showing a definate interest and aptitude in art. Runs in the family I guess, I take after my musical aunt who has a band and now a 4 track cd, while my sister takes after the artistic aunt who is currently going to university and spends most of her free time creating new pieces.

After lunch, dad, my older cousin Craig and myself all went to the shops for cards and presents for my Nan who was going to be 77 on Saturday. We all managed to find some good gifts in one place (good old WHSmiths) and picked up a few things in the local supermarket before heading back.

Kaitlin had spent the time baking cakes with my aunt, while my other aunt had gone to collect my younger cousin Mitchell from his father's house. When they got back, I sat with my cousin and caught up with him as I hadn't seen him in 4 years. When I last saw him he was a short 10 year old with a blonde crew cut and an encyclopedic knowledge of Monty Python quotes. Now he is 14, almost as tall as me (but only almost) and has a cross between a Beatles bowl cut and an emo mop of blonde hair, and he's obsessions are currently Star Wars and gaming. So he hasn't done too bad in my absence, except he has a 360...oh dear...

Anyway, it wasn't long before lunch was ready, and we enjoyed a good roast chicken dinner together with plenty more family banter. My mood stayed on the up so other than a little hyperactive I felt alright. After lunch, we gave presents and cards a day early. We'd decided to do this anyway as we were planning to leave on the morning of her birthday, simply so we could travel back in daylight when my dad was well rested to drive.

Unfortunately, during the course of the day Kaitlin's mother rang. Now, earlier in the morning, Kaitlin had turned to my aunt and asked "would it be ok if I sleep over another night?" which of course we were all delighted by because that's just what we wanted, her to be happy about staying again so we could leave as planned and wish a proper happy birthday to my Nana. Well, that all changed in the course of about a minute. I don't know what she said but after my sis came off the phone she was insistent on going home that night and was even impatient to leave. nothing we said could sway her and she wouldn't really explain why other than something about her wanting mummy to read her a story to go to sleep.

That fucking woman has done this before, she is making Kaitlin dependant on her, is completely ignorant of the child's actual wants and needs and the one who will suffer in all this is Kaitlin. It's easy to see it will affect her confidence, trust, and ability to stay away from home or spend time with her dad. I spoke to my aunts about this, basically everyone thinks she's being unreasonable and possessive over the child and not letting her lead a normal life visiting family and her other parent. I have a real mind to have serious words with her because it's not fair for Kaitlin to suffer just because her mother is so needy she can't go a night alone. It brought home the exact reason why it came about - when pulling up to her house Kaitlin pointed out that mummy's boyfriend's car wasn't there so he wouldn't be there.

The rest of the day felt rushed and irritated, everyone was unhappy about what had been said and Kaitlin's change of heart because of it. We had to pack our things together and try and explain to an elderly lady who may not see many more birthdays why her son and granddaughters were leaving before her actual birthday. Still, we had some birthday cake later and left around 8:40pm.

Kaitlin had her DVDs again, and amazingly stayed awake the whole journey, probably due in part to having a can of cola and cake in the evening. We stopped at Fleet again for a quick break but most of the drive was in the dark and intermittent rain. Nevertheless, the journey wasn't bad and after dropping Kaitlin home and picking up some milk we were home by midnight. My mood had sunk completely again and taken my energy levels with it so I just tried to get some sleep. It took a few hours of restless exhaustion but I did eventually manage to get a solid few hours.

~~~~~~~ Saturday 31st - Halloween ~~~~~~~

I wasted most of the morning on the internet, pissing about and checking emails etc. I had a late lunch with dad and eventually headed to town late afternoon. I had planned to wander down town and look for a couple extras for my costume for later, but I was feeling exceptionally low so just wanted to jump on the first bus to Blandford and get going. Halfway through the journey, the switch had flipped so by the time I got to Dan's I was pretty cheery and ready to see him.

He was in the bath when I arrived, so I went to wait for him. We spent a little while talking and watching tv before we decided it was time to start getting ready to go out. I had my purple and black prom dress from yr11, so I planned to create some bitewounds on my neck with a little makeup magic and borrow some fake blood when we got to the club to finish it off. Dan was going in his full "The Spirit" costume, which for those who haven't seen the movie or comics is a suit with long jacket, gloves, black shirt, red tie, black eyemask, smart hat and trainers. He looked really rather handsome, and I will freely admit I was very tempted to not let him leave the house and have him to myself!

Anyway, we were ready early so we sat around downstairs watching tv for a while waiting for his sister Claire to pick us up to go. When she arrived, it was obvious getting in to the car was going to be a squeeze. There's literally no legroom in the back normally, but squashing 3 fully grown adults in meant that even with Dan in the middle I had one of my knees crushed on the door up by my chin for most of the journey... When we got there it felt so good just to unfold limbs!

Dan's mask meant he couldn't see well in the distance because his glasses wouldn't fit over the top. We led him to the bar where we waited a good 10minutes or more to be served our first drink. We found a couple of friends and sat on some sofas and had a couple pics taken as we were there.





For the next hour we sat around mostly or wandered about talking to people. My mood took a sudden plummet and I found it difficult to stay in one place at a time without feeling the desperate need to leave. I went outside to the smoking area with them when they went, but it did no good because it made me feel claustrophobic with people lining the narrow walls both sides and more trying to walk down the tiny gap in the middle to find a space to smoke or to go back inside. It's weird, I've never really been claustrophobic but right now lots of people in small spaces make me nervous as hell and set off the start of panic attacks...

We went inside again, where it was boiling and packed full. The door to the pub next door was opened so people could come and go freely through there and sit in that bar too for the night if they wanted. I went to go outside the front for fresh air but was told that as the club was at full capacity we may not get back in. They were operating a one out one in policy on the doors, so the best we could do was stand in the corridor and catch the air from the big fans they have on the floor out there. I spent a bit more time inside sat on the chairs with people, catching up with those I hadn't seen and after a little while my mood bounced back up again. By then, Dan, Claire and Tristan had all gone into the bar next door to try and get served faster but it was so packed with so few staff they were there at least half an hour.

While they were gone, Wombat and co turned up late as they'd been to another party on the way here. Wombat was wasted but my sudden flip in mood bounced right off her and I got a bit hyper, insisting on giving her the promised piggy back immediately and going to find friends.

We went over to see one friend and found ourselves in front of the camera, and right next to a cage that had been set up for the night. I'd seen some people in there earlier so jokingly suggested as Wombat was dressed as a cat she should get in. She wouldn't get in there without me so the owner's partner who was taking pictures suggested we go in there together and she'd take some photos. It turned out to be a good laugh, and I was on a massive high to be having fun with my best mate again after not seeing her in a while. Here's the evidence of the little escapade anyway....









Shortly after that burst of energy my mood dropped as I started to panic again amongst the crowds. A few minutes in the hallway later I managed to control it and returned to the seats in the corner. Dan and co were back from getting drinks, finally, and we sat around talking for a while. Soon after they went for a cigarette, and I talked to Louise while I waited for them to get back. When they'd done smoking, the 5 of us travelling in Claire's car had a quick talk, and decided as it was so unbearably hot and full, with no chance of getting a drink at the bar within 30minutes we might as well leave. It was midnight and we thought we could easily go to the pub back in Blannie and at least have a shot at being served a couple of drinks. It turns out the problem at the club was, apart from it being the busiest club night of the year, that being Samhain, a Pagan holiday, half the bar staff were Pagan and so entitled to the night off work leaving them with nowhere near the amount of people needed to deal with so many customers at once. No surprise really, but as we were all fairly sober and not feeling the mood of the night it was just as well we went back.

I felt low most of the way back, and with Dan dropping in and out of sleep, being cramped up and nobody else really talking on the journey by the time we got to Claire's we decided to call it a night. We went in for a cuppa and relaxed with Claire and Tristan before we had a lift back to Dan's. By the time we got back there I just felt so low all of a sudden I couldn't help but get upset. It was worse because I can't explain why, so Dan feels like it's something he's said or done when it isn't at all, it's just so completely random...anyway, when I pulled myself together we decided we were shattered and just went to sleep. I didn't sleep for a while after he had dropped off, and had a disturbed night again. The depression was just too unbearable, and the nightmares are becoming fairly consistent now. Hooray.

~~~~~~~Sunday 1st Nov - Chiiiiiiilllllllllllll?....~~~~~~~

I woke up a few hours before Dan on Sunday. I spent an hour or so just laying there, then got up and read some of OPM which has finally arrived by subscription without incident this time. eventually he woke up and we went downstairs for coffee. When we went back up he felt like working on som more of his drawings so he set up DOA4 on his 360 for me. I spent a little while playing through before another wave of depression took away my will to keep playing. I took a break for a little while and waited for it to pass, then played a bit more until lunch was ready.

We had a roast dinner downstairs with Dan's mum and her boyfriend. I wasn't hungry at all, and was put off further by the mountain of cauliflower cheese and brussel sprouts on my portion. I had been asked before if I liked this and declined, but obviously that small detail had been forgotten which annoyed his mother who thought she should have been told my likes and dislikes. Well, it's difficult to speak up and say that I've actually told her before and she's just forgotten, so I apologised and decided to just eat what wasn't covered in vile cauliflower cheese sauce. Which wasn't much really. But then, my appetite was absolute zero, and I felt like I was really forcing myself to eat at all. What made it all worse was that I was sat opposite her and experiencing another crushing wave of depression which quickly grew into a panic attack as I wanted to leave but couldn't, and couldn't control my eyes from welling up. The whole thing was a nightmare, I ate a small amount of the meat and had to leave it at that, sitting at the table trying desperately to hold it together while Dan finished eating.

When we went back upstairs I felt so guilty for being upset and ruining the mood and day of everyone around me that I just couldn't hold it together any more. I felt like a total train wreck, and tried my best to explain to Dan just how my head keeps switching itself at random. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me but I do know that I'm not coping any more. He told me he will be here for me...it's difficult to believe, much as I want to, because I've been dumped because of mental instability before when I had these problems. They had subsided for a couple of years, or at least significantly lessened the frequency of mood flips, and the panic attacks really are something entirely new to me... I dearly hope that this time I have found a hero to rely on, but I'll just keep trying to save myeslf for now because I wouldn't blame him for a second if he walked away from the wreckage...

Anyway...after a while my mood lifted, and we curled up in the quilt to watch Tenacious D's Pick of Destiny on DVD. Everyone likes a good light hearted rock comedy now and then, and it is fairly awesome a film too. The rest of the day was ok, and later we were playing Super Smash Bros on the Wii using the old GC controllers for some co-op challenges. It was fairly fun and we had a laugh watching some of the extras you can get with Snake. Eventually we went to bed, and this time I found it easier to fall asleep. Unfortunately we both woke in the early hours, and I woke a few times after with more nightmares. We had an early start but I managed to get up around 6am to make him coffee. He left for work not long before 7am and I filled out my forms for the jobcentre and caught the bus in to town.

~~~~~~~ Monday 2nd Nov - Rejection, review and the week's plan...~~~~~~~

I got to town with half an hour to kill, so bought a hot chocolate and a cake for £1 (bargain!) from my favourite little shop at the bus station and sat inside the main shopping centre on a bench reading more OPM to kill time. The jobcentre went as usual, and I have been told it's been 6 months now that I've been looking for work, so I have to attend a group review thing for tips on jobhunting. It seems I'm seeing the same guy most times I go now, which is ok. He's not the same chap I saw at first, who seems to have left, but is an older guy. Talking to him about countless fruitless searches doesn't seem as bad, especially now he's said he was out of work himself once for about 8months. I felt a lot less like he would be as scornful as some other people I've seen there at my fortnightly appointments. A small consolation...

I printed out some jobs from the search point machine things, and resolved to apply for them all as soon as I got back. I caught a bus home and by the time I got back felt completely exhausted and drained of all energy, pysically and emotionally. I spent the morning sat with either cat or laptop on my knees searching jobs and applying to the fistful I had brought home with me. Unfortunately a mere couple of hours later I had a rejection email from one. It's more than I usually get but a negative response that quickly is really discouraging. I'm starting to wonder if I'm completely useless now, like all of my CV's and applications just get binned as soon as they arrive. Even the jobs I've been hopeful about have amounted to absolutely fuck all. I signed up with an agency, who literally only took my contact details and available working hours (any) and said that though I didn't have any training that was fine as they often preferred to train new staff their way anyway for the NVQ. They were supposed to call me with an interview date. That was about a month ago. I must admit it's feeling pretty hopeless and extremely unlikely I'll have a job by christmas. Won't even be able to afford to buy close friends and family any gifts, maybe not even Dan, and he keeps mentioning he's seen things that would be great to buy me for Christmas. I feel so intensely guilty for not being able to get anyone birthday presents this year that the very thought of December makes me feel even more depressed and hopeless about the whole situation. I had to borrow money from my boyfriend for a bus fare just to get home this morning. I think that says it all really :(

Well, before I get on too much of a downer again, I'll leave it at that. I've resolved to go to the doctor tomorrow morning for an appointment and start getting my head sorted out. I'll also spend a fair bit of time trying to sort things out here, as Wednesday night looks to be like a gaming night here with Chrispy and Dan coming down in the late afternoon and staying over as they're both off Thursday. I hope it perks me up, because if I keep breaking down I'll have no choice but to stay away from people completely rather than risk being the pathetic person I used to be.

Jenivere Out.

BrainVomit - What's the Point Anyway?

These last couple of days have been particularly low. Don't ask me why I don't have a clue, but I woke up this morning disappointed to have woken up at all. Yesterday all I had to eat was some pancakes I forced myself to have for lunch, the rest of the time I wasn't bothered by food or hunger at all. Today, pretty much the same, I forced down some sausages and tried to cheer myself up with a couple of toasted waffles but it felt like it took a lot of effort to eat. I know I probably won't have anything else tonight, use the same lie that I had a large late lunch to pacify my father if he offers anything. I rather hope he'll be out with his sailing friends tonight, I don't want to face anyone in this state.

I've been lethargic to say the least, barely got off my ass all day unless I really had to. Didn't feel like gaming, didn't feel like doing anything really so have sat largely comatose in front of shite tv while playing round after round of spider solitaire on my laptop. It doesn't matter if I win or lose I just keep playing because it's automatic now, so simple and logical to just click through the game without caring about anything else. I should have gone to the library at least to take a book back, and booked an appointment at the doc's to sort my head out, but it all seemed just so pointless. It's been weeks since my last hope at getting a job and I've heard nothing back from them. The agency I signed up to, that offered free training and an almost assured position, they were meant to call with an interview date nearly a month ago. Why the fuck am I bothering? There's been nothing to even apply for in the last week, so by Monday when I have to go to the job centre that'll go tits up. Joy.

I am beginning to doubt I could even deal with a job in my current mental state, it's like a light turning on and off randomly in my head. When I feel good I feel great, like I can do pretty much anything I put my mind to, I feel energetic and determined to do things, I feel inspired and want to write......then it switches, with no trigger, no reason, and I feel like crying, I feel tired and either can't stay awake or can't fall asleep, I feel like the simplest things are virtually impossible and that there's no point to any of it anyway, I feel irritable even towards people who are only trying to be positive towards me and desperately want to get away from everyone and everything because I can't cope with the pressure of other people's emotions.....and then without warning it switches back again.

On top of this I'm worried about other people and their problems, which I can't really discuss here other than to say someone I care for deeply is so stressed right now it's making them seriously physically ill. I can't solve their problems for them and I'm finding it difficult convincing them to make the motions to help solve the problem for themselves. I hate myself for my own human limitations, I cannot control my own life let alone aid anyone else's.

And then there's this weekend. Tomorrow morning I leave for Dover with my dad and little sister to see family. If it wasn't for the fact I haven't been to see them for about 4years I would be backing out of it right now. I'm not looking forward to it, I doubt that I can cope with it and I'm wondering what the hell I'm supposed to do for 3days. The day I get back I'll be rushing to town to pick up some things then getting my ass to Blandford so we can go to Halloween night at the club. Fantastic, amazing, wonderful, if I panic again up there when I'm drinking it'll just end up making the whole thing worse for everyone.

I'm wondering how much longer I can keep going, half wishing every time I cross the road a car will come out of nowhere and strike me down, half hoping every time I board a bus it'll crash, still disappointed every time I wake up and see myself in the mirror and know I haven't changed...and the worst part is I don't know why I feel like that, and that the only possible cause is so deeply buried in my memory I'm terrified of bringing it all screaming out into the open because the last time I tried to face it I nearly lost myself forever to the insanity of my own mind. My past may have shaped me, but it left cracks that are tearing under the pressure of living each pointless day after the next. And I know how ridiculously over-dramatic whiny little emokid I sound, even to myself as I think these things but I'm powerless to take control of my own feelings, I am a slave to my emotions and they're working my knuckles to the bone.

Jenivere Out.

BrainVomit - Artful Vomiting

I've yet to write on the mcm expo, I'll get around to it soon enough. Right now I just felt like writing down a couple of my more recent inspirations. I've been writing again, up to 4 or 5 pieces in a day when I feel inspired, or I'll go weeks without writing. I've been writing for contests on AllPoetry (my personal page is here with my full back catalogue of shite), anyway I've been writing for contests for inspiration and challenge, and also written a couple of pieces out of the blue. Everything I have written recently has been of personal significance, so I thought a couple should make their way over here to this little corner while I sort my head out enough to write about more important and interesting things.

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"SPEECHLESS"

When we first kissed,
It hung on the air like a distant piano's chord,
As beautiful and delicate as the northern lights.

When we first embraced,
It felt like a natural force pulling me in,
And the rest of the world was obscured from sight.

When we first spoke,
It seemed like an unstoppable fountain of words,
We could have talked for years in a night.

Now when we kiss,
It hangs on my lips like the sweetest taste,
The delightful addiction I don't want to fight.

Now when we embrace,
It feels like magnets holding each other in,
The warmth and affection when you hold me tight.

Now when we speak,
It seems I'm speechless and lost for words,
I feel so strongly, but I just can't say it right.

~~~

"FOOD"

I crave you, I hate you,
Tempting me, Taunting me,
Making my taste buds tingle Making my stomach churn
At the thought of you. At the sight of you.
I hunger for you I detest you
Even when I've eaten my fill. Even when I'm starving sick.

You're delicate, You're disgusting,
Beautiful lust, Saturated hate,
Laced with the finest tastes, Filled with slick oily fats,
My secret comfort. My hidden sin.

So hot and sweet, So warm and sickly,
Adorned with treacle lattice, Smothered in sticky sauces,
Served with smooth cream. Draped in liquid sin.
Teasing with a centre Oozing from your centre
Peeking from the side. The sickness that's inside.

~~~

This third piece is one I wrote for a contest, which was to create a dark story to a positive picture. Of the options there were, I chose this one.
"POSSESSION"

The sun shone down on golden fields
And burnt the maiden's skin.
She'd fallen into her prince's arms
As he had drawn her in.
Sweet and fair our maiden was,
Innocent and pure.
Darkened by the prince's touch,
And sickness beyond cure.

In the golden fields of corn,
Upon a summer morn.
Sweet lovers in the dawn,
By evening they were torn.

Pulling her towards him,
The prince, he stole her kiss.
Holding her too tightly,
She could not resist.
He'd woo'd her with his words
And brought her to this place,
Now the maiden was trapped,
Within love's tight embrace.

In golden fields of corn,
Upon a summer morn.
Sweet lovers in the dawn,
By evening she was torn.

All the maiden wanted
Was to free her loving heart,
But now this sweet possession
Was tearing her apart.
She reached up her slender hand
and grabbed him by the wrist.
She bit his lip and tasted blood
As she ended the unrelenting kiss.

In golden fields of corn,
Upon a summer morn.
Sweet lovers in the dawn,
By evening now forlorn.

The prince released the maiden,
And realised what he'd done.
Something so very precious,
Should never in haste be won.
He'd lost her now to darkness,
As night came closing in.
The maiden left him on his knees,
For what was, should not have been.

In golden fields of corn,
Upon a summer morn,
So naive at dawn,
The maiden was reborn.

~~~

Anyway, I'm off to work out if I'm feeling insomnia tonight or if I'm just that tired I can't tell anymore....
Jenivere Out.